Seven steps to marital Ecstacy

By Joe Beam

Step Seven—Passionately Pursue Passion

Agree — At this level of marriage, each partner understands the intense needs of the other and does his or her best to fulfill them. Because being together for years tends to dull the keen edge of marriage presented by passion, a couple at this level makes marriage forever fresh by concentrating on the pure joy of exciting each other. When they agree to make this a priority, their life together becomes more fun than it has ever been.

Learn — Even the greatest lover and the most knowledgeable mate can learn more about how to please his or her spouse. Not only are there continually new techniques to discover (we're constantly researching them here at FDI!), there are new things to explore in each other’s minds and hearts. The greatest lover isn’t the one with the most experience but the one with the most curiosity.

Play — Consummate love requires work. A lot of work. But when that work concentrates on play, it isn’t tedious at all. Short-lived pleasure is the province of the newlywed. Perpetual pleasure is the province of those whose marriages are so wonderful that they passionately pursue passion.