Romance and Love-making

By Charmaine Saunders

Introduction

In case you haven't realised it yet, sex is fun! And so is the interaction between the sexes, in many forms. Too often, we get caught up in the drama, the intensity, the physicality of sex and we forget to enjoy the experience in a total and sensual way.

In this article, we're going to look at ways of having fun with sex, relating with romance. Let's keep in mind , as we start on this pleasurable journey, what Dr. Michael Clarke calls the `23 and a half hour foreplay,' in his book `Sexual joy in marriage.' What he means is that everything a couple does before going to bed to make love constitutes sexual preparation, all the little gestures, the smiles, body language, touching, silent messages that say clearly, `I want you.' We could probably take this further and suggest that a couple's entire life together is about sexual foreplay because if they're not getting along outside the bedroom, they're not going to have much fun in bed. When I speak of romance, I don't mean the literal kind, involving candlelit dinners, sexy night attire and slow dancing, although it certainly can entail all of the above. Romance is an attitude, a mood, a feeling, so let's start our journey there.